Bitch, please…

I’m not offended by this word. Hell there is even a magazine named bitch.

When I was in high school, I proudly displayed a sticker on my rear window which read Super Bitch with the Superman “S” in the middle.

I will admit it took me a while to take the word in a warm embrace and one day I just said, “alright—when someone says this to me, it’s always when I’m defending myself or when I’ve gone against the grain.” And then I just decided to wear it like a black dress instead of a chip on my shoulder.

But here we go again with a “celebrity” getting in trouble for name-calling. However this time it’s different. This time we are told that it’s OK to call a black chick a bitch if you are a black male but it’s not OK to do it when you are a white guy. Who said this wonderful tidbit? Mr. Isiah Thomas, New York Knicks coach and president. Read what the fuss is about.

For one thing. Like I said. I don’t care about this word. Even if some guy (or girl for that matter) calls me it when I’ve pissed him or her off. However to be told that it all comes down to race on whether or not it’s OK is just crazy. Because by dissecting it down like that, you are telling me that black people can degrade their own but not let the white folks do it.

I would have preferred if he just fessed up to the word just being derogatory, period. And that he was wrong for saying it. Not announce that because this word is so offensive it can only be used by blacks. What are you trying to tell me then? Blacks can be uncouth all they want but whites have to just sit back and use another word more appropriate for their skin? Bitch is bitch in any race or culture. And does Mr. Thomas realize that his statement just makes us [black folks] look foolish?

Race should give the “privilege” of using words that hurt people? Again, if Thomas were to have said, Don’t forget, you f——— bitch, I’m the president of this f——— team,” to me, I would have laughed in his face. The word bitch isn’t harsh enough to shake my spirit but that’s just me. However Thomas’ alleged following statement, “What the f— is your job? What are your job responsibilities, you f——— ho?” would have got him BITCH-slapped because:

A.) The egotist has just questioned my job ability. A big no-no if you know me. I’m a goal-hungry vixen and he would have regretted the moment he said that.

B.) Bitch I’ll answer to; “ho” will get you a loss of your scrotum.

Some ladies may not agree with me saying that bitch isn’t that big of a deal. Even the intent behind it. I just don’t care. But Thomas is a damn fool to think it’s OK to say it only if you are black.

8 responses to this post.

  1. interesting.


  2. I can agree. I don’t think of bitch as being that harsh of a word. I think we all have a little bitch in us lol. What Isaiah said spewed pure ignorance. It’s people like him that make black people look bad. Fucking idiot. One race shouldn’t have the authority over how certain words are used and to whom they are used. btw, I love the way you write. ❤


  3. Isiah Thomas is out of his mind. As far as I know, bitch and bastard own no colors. If you are, you are.


  4. AJ,

    Bitch? I wear my bitchdom proudly. I take no offense to the word. And as I advance in years, I see that more and more of the Penis People are also “actin’ the bitch”. So no…I don’t think this very utilitarian word is damn close to perfect and finally, no longer gender specific.

    And SURE as hell not race specific!!!

    Laurie Kendrick


  5. Yesterday I was called a ‘dirty slut’ by a phone solicitor who was put off by the fact that he wasn’t getting put through to person he believed was the president of our company. Here I was, being all nice and calm and trying to figure out what the hell he wanted, but his game was to try to bully the person he perceived as the ‘stupid birdbrain secretary’ (me, I guess). It’s shocking to hear the way these guys talk to women when they think they’re talking to an insignificant female at a company. I’ve gone so far as to tell these people that just because a female answers the phone, they’re not necessarily a starter-lever employee – they could just as well be the owner they so profess to want to speak to.

    The comment yesterday really stuck under my skin in so many ways and I wondered all day if that guy was married or had a girlfriend – and if so, how did he treat her? Does she have any idea how he talks to women on the phone at work? Is she aware of his offhand denigrating remarks? And why does any man feel he has the right to call any woman a dirty slut? (unless it’s done in a role-playing sex romp – with mutual consent of course!)

    I might add that this is not the first time it’s happened in my job. It does seem to be getting more frequent recently though.


  6. In the 70s, the disco days. Women use to think it was elite and fashinable to have the T shirt with rhinestones spelling out BITCH. They also wore broches and charms that said this also.
    Now personally I really dont give a shit one way or the other.
    But it was this time and era that gave men what they thought was a license to call women BITCH.
    If it doesnt affect you thats fine, I think that still we should be careful. If you take it too lightly you could call the wrong person a bitch one day.
    I am referd to as an asshole numerous times every day. I realize this is true so ts no big deal to me.

    Its funny how women then use to adorn themselves with this word , and now they get all bent out of shape when some guy calls them bitch
    Elton John even wrote a song explaining the validity of the words use in the 70s.


    I was justified when I was five
    Raising cane, I spit in your eye
    Times are changing, now the poor get fat
    But the fevers gonna catch you when the bitch gets back

    Eat meat on friday thats alright
    Even like steak on a saturday night
    I can bitch the best at your social dos
    I get high in the evening sniffing pots of glue

    Im a bitch, Im a bitch
    Oh the bitch is back
    Stone cold sober as a matter of fact
    I can bitch, I can bitch
    `cause Im better than you
    Its the way that I move
    The things that I do

    I entertain by picking brains
    Sell my soul by dropping names
    I dont like those, my god, whats that
    Oh its full of nasty habits when the bitch gets back


  7. Cunt is the new bitch. It’s not really gender specific either, but if you want a response guaranteed, accept no substitute. I am not calling anyone a cunt in this comment.


  8. It’s not something you say in the workplace. Period.
    Old fashioned professionalism.

    I love to kid around, but I’d never use that kind of language with coworkers.
    (And as a teacher, we need to set an example. Something you’d think a coach would think of….)


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